Confusion.

I'm having a dilemma. You see, I desire to have a heart that is 100% dedicated to the Lord. I'm nowhere close to being there, but that is what I'm striving for. BUT I also have a desire and a dream to be a wife and a mother someday. To be head-over-heels in love with a man. You may not see the dilemma here....but the problem is that I don't understand how a person can have both things. I've seen people have both...like when I look at my parents who absolutely adore each other, and are incredibly faithful in their walk with the Lord. Or when I look at my grandparents, or some of my friends' parents. I can see that they are able to love their spouse completely and be dedicated to the Lord...but it still confuses me.

For some reason, I have confused myself with the idea that romantic love is selfish love. That it isn't Christ-honoring or something. Now I know the facts...I know that a marriage is a representation of the relationship between Christ and the church. I know that God intended people to marry because the first people he created were also the first marriage. I know that God loves marriage....but why does this all just feel so wrong to me? I have somehow gotten the idea into my head that romantic love is selfish because it makes a person feel good. I've read John Piper's book "Desiring God" and in there he talks about how "God is most glorified in us, when we are most satisfied in Him." So I know that what I may feel to be "selfish" isn't actually selfish...in fact, it glorifies God. But I'm still stuck!

I'm stuck between knowing the facts, and the feelings I've developed about it. I think a large contribution to this confusion comes from 1 Corinthians 7:32-35. Here Paul says,

"I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord."
 

 This verse makes it sound like you can only have one or the other. You can either be devoted to the Lord....or be married. You can either be concerned with the Lord's affairs...or be married. This wasn't Paul's intention, was it? Did he really mean to give marriage a bad reputation? Am I the only one who struggles with these questions? I have absolutely NOTHING against marriage...I just don't know how to answer these questions. I'm confused. Lord please help me to understand.